In the our last talk we discussed how the barriers of final planning discussions drop when the topic is brought up casually.

I remember when my grandmother passed away and being a part of setting up her funeral. All the preparation…. All the choices upon choices… What funeral type... What type of casket… Who will do the eulogy… What charities to fund in lieu of flowers… The catering afterward… The bill!

I remember how things added up. I also remember having only one day to plan all of this. The endless discussions of what she ‘really’ would have wanted.  I am not sure if anyone really felt good about the decisions that were made on her behalf.

What was strangely ironic was the comment from my mother, ‘At least we didn’t have to worry about the place of burial.”  My grandmother pre-planned with the cemetery of her choice after my grandfather’s funeral close to 30 years ago.   Interesting, wouldn’t you say?